So how did we get to here...
OK, so who am I, why does this little bit of cyberspace exist, and what is this all about? This blog is just a record of my journey over the past few months from being in a long-term relationship to being a single bloke. I joked with someone about writing about all this on a blog and they said ‘Why not?’, I couldn’t come up with a suitable reason, and thought it might be a good idea, so here we are. Maybe call it therapy, maybe it is just more clutter out there on the web. Then again some of the blogs I have read recently have been very illuminating and have made me look at parts of my life in more detail. Who knows why you are reading this, but hopefully it is vaguely interesting!
It will cover subjects that some of you might find taboo such as prostitution and lots of sex in general. This blog is intended to be fairly anonymous. I’ve nothing to hide and many people know about the secrets hidden within here, but the name has been changed to protect the innocent, and in many cases the not so innocent.
So, who am I? I’m a guy, in his late twenties who lives in the UK. I work as a web developer in a web design company. I am a techie, I like gadgets, I am more often than not attached to a computer of some kinds, but I like to think (maybe vainly) that I break the mould a little bit from the stereotypical techie.
Stereotypes. They are going to be covered quite a bit in this blog. There are many parts of this journey that have made me confront and break many of societies stereotypes. Which has been fun ;) But is has also made me think a bit more about life, which I think has been a good thing overall.
[ OK, below is a very brief overview of the last few months, I will look into some bits in more detail in future postings ]
I have been up until recently in a long-term relationship. This was with a girl whom I met and university and fell deeply in love with. We lived together and I thought all was great. Then we started to have less and less sex as time went on. By the end we were having sex about once every 4-6 weeks. I was quite sexually active at University and to go from that to one woman was something that I (surprisingly to myself) didn’t seem to have much of a problem with. I guess it was to do with how much I loved that person I was going to spend my time with. However as time went on and the amount of sex reduced I got quite frustrated. I tried many times to spice things up, to find out how to make things better, but it never worked. I felt I was being pushed away by a woman I loved. It hurt. Was it me? Was it her? Was it external pressures and influences? Who knows, it was probably a bit of all of them.
Recently I found myself more and more attracted to other women. Something that has gotten stronger and stronger. Whilst there is much more to a relationship that just sex, intimacy plays a big part, and I was not willing to stay in a relationship any longer in which the intimacy was not there.
So there we are. That was the nutshell version... the gory details to follow ;)
It will cover subjects that some of you might find taboo such as prostitution and lots of sex in general. This blog is intended to be fairly anonymous. I’ve nothing to hide and many people know about the secrets hidden within here, but the name has been changed to protect the innocent, and in many cases the not so innocent.
So, who am I? I’m a guy, in his late twenties who lives in the UK. I work as a web developer in a web design company. I am a techie, I like gadgets, I am more often than not attached to a computer of some kinds, but I like to think (maybe vainly) that I break the mould a little bit from the stereotypical techie.
Stereotypes. They are going to be covered quite a bit in this blog. There are many parts of this journey that have made me confront and break many of societies stereotypes. Which has been fun ;) But is has also made me think a bit more about life, which I think has been a good thing overall.
[ OK, below is a very brief overview of the last few months, I will look into some bits in more detail in future postings ]
I have been up until recently in a long-term relationship. This was with a girl whom I met and university and fell deeply in love with. We lived together and I thought all was great. Then we started to have less and less sex as time went on. By the end we were having sex about once every 4-6 weeks. I was quite sexually active at University and to go from that to one woman was something that I (surprisingly to myself) didn’t seem to have much of a problem with. I guess it was to do with how much I loved that person I was going to spend my time with. However as time went on and the amount of sex reduced I got quite frustrated. I tried many times to spice things up, to find out how to make things better, but it never worked. I felt I was being pushed away by a woman I loved. It hurt. Was it me? Was it her? Was it external pressures and influences? Who knows, it was probably a bit of all of them.
Recently I found myself more and more attracted to other women. Something that has gotten stronger and stronger. Whilst there is much more to a relationship that just sex, intimacy plays a big part, and I was not willing to stay in a relationship any longer in which the intimacy was not there.
So there we are. That was the nutshell version... the gory details to follow ;)
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